Here’s something interesting.
“How to propose to your bridesmaids” is a question we get asked a lot. Often by brides-to-be who care deeply about the people in their lives and are looking for inspiration and ideas beyond Google’s search results for ‘how to ask your friend to be a bridesmaid’. It’s a fair question, given most people have never done it before and one we’re happy to shine some light on. Here’s our take on popping the big (or OK, smaller) question…
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As we touched on above, proposing to your bridesmaids simply refers to the act of asking the people you’ve chosen to have by your side on your wedding day a very specific and important question: will you be my bridesmaid?
Asking someone to be your bridesmaid is a declaration of love – a way to acknowledge and honour the special relationship you and that person share. For that reason, it warrants putting some thought into how you do it. That doesn’t mean it has to be fancy – just thoughtful.
The long and short of it is no, you don’t. It’s an entirely personal decision and there is certainly no right or wrong. In fact, plenty of couples are choosing to buck tradition and create their own version of a ‘wedding party’ (see our Instagram reel on the evolution of wedding parties here) or forego the idea of a wedding party altogether.
That said, if you are having bridesmaids (or groomsmaids or bridesmen) for your wedding, it’s nice to use this opportunity to make them feel special right from the start of your wedding planning journey and let them know how much they mean to you.
Being a bridesmaid is a commitment. Very generally speaking, it’s their job to organise your hen’s party and/or kitchen tea and there are usually some costs involved. You might also ask them to help you find your dream dress, say a speech or clean cattle skulls (true story).
And while it’s probably a much easier question for them to answer than one you’ve asked in the past like, “what do you think of [insert deadbeat ex’s name here]?” or “do you want to go to the gym?”, it’s nice to put some thought into how you pop the question. Here are some ideas:
We don’t think there should be a set-in-stone rule when it comes to when you should pop the question – it’s entirely up to you. But as a guide, we always think it’s best not to dilly-dally for too long if possible. Otherwise it can get a bit awkward (especially because it’s one of the first questions people will ask not only you but your closest friends) and as the day creeps closer vendors such as your hair and makeup artists will need to know final numbers.
Already popped the question and need a hand finding the ultimate bridesmaid gift? Head here for ideas.
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